Where did the magic go?

You begin to look elsewhere? The seven-year itch hits you? Maybe you were infatuated and this is how life really is? You will settle for that?

You can probably come up with a thousand reasons for this loss of miracle-mindedness and some of its remedies may work briefly.

But there is a deeper reason for this midlife dis-ease. Spiritual malaise is difficult to diagnose.

If you fell in love as a gift of nature, you must resurrect that miraculous talent by awareness and choice.

Couples complain to me constantly that they feel angry, disappointed, rejected, lonely, hungry, and argument-prone.

The only excitement now is the next fight. Who is wrong takes over. Distractions seem like heaven. Avoidance and defense are the name of the game. Making up gets harder. Distrust eats away at you. Thoughts of divorce sneak in. You are already divorced within, divorced from your own vitality.

"From daily miracles to daily misery" is not what you gave your life for, is it?

Then its time for a change. Real change, however, is quite a challenge.

Boldness is required. You must dare to look into the very depths of yourself. Self-conflict always precedes partner-conflict.

Superficial surface change doesn't cut it. Only understanding will do. You will need to discover the tools of transformation.

Criticizing and blaming your partner doesn't work. You have ego-weariness. Fear and anxiety have replaced love and caring. Your business is to change your thoughts, not someone else's.

Finding the door to yourself is the first step to recovering the magic in your relationship.

There is no shortcut. You have tried every distraction in the book. Re-birth is it. I don't mean joining some religion. I mean joining yourself. Self-discovery of your innate spirituality is the only way to recover the magic.

You may have forgotten that you are a miracle, not a mess, not a machine, not a manipulator, not a mistake, not a maniac.

Where did you bury your spirituality, your creativity, your spontaneity, your inspiration?

I've been a therapist for over 40 years now.

I can recall saying rather sarcastically sometimes to clients; "What do you think I am, a miracle-worker! I have no magic bullets."

But now the sarcasm is gone. I've had a change of mind. Miracles do happen. There is a magic bullet. I am a miracle-worker and so are you. We just forgot how.

A radical rebirth of consciousness is necessary if you want daily miracles in your life.

Don't short-change yourself. Undo your stereotypes, your lazy opinions, your illusory self-talk. Restore communication and communion in your relationship. Resurrect your sleeping talents and your dying marriage. Opt for miracle-mindedness!

The Course

Miracles for Marriage is an online ten-week class for couples and/or individuals. Maximum of six people. One hour a week. Some homework. $10 an hour apiece. Discover self-awareness tools you can learn to use. We will study a book on relationship inspiration ($15). Guaranteed miracles if you do the work.

You may sign-up now for the ten-week course with a one time of $100 payment per person (If you are a couple using the same payment, just double the quantity of payments in the sign-up form.) using your credit card through PayPal:

You will be notified about meeting times in my private chat room, how to get there, and what your reading assignment will be.

Thank you,
Carroll J. Wright, Ph.D.
maritalmiracles@myspiritualpsychotherapy.com

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